By Kassidy Tsikitas | Photographer
If you find yourself scrolling through tarot readings on TikTok saying your ex is coming back… you might be struggling to cope.
As college students, it’s common to seek comfort in other people. This can push us to jump into a new relationship or drop old friends to search for others. The pain of losing someone close can be overwhelming, and there will always be an urge to fill the void with a new connection. Often, we can’t handle these emotions and it causes us to crash out and make irrational decisions rather than sitting with what just happened.
Instead of seeking quick fixes, focusing on healing and rediscovering yourself is crucial. Invest time in activities that bring you joy, such as picking up new hobbies, pursuing therapy or reconnecting with friends who uplift you. Falling out with friends or breaking up leaves us with an empty feeling, leading us to question our self worth. This period of self reflection and growth can help you build a stronger foundation for future relationships, ensuring you’re not just filling a void, but genuinely moving forward.
Rebound relationships pursued after a breakup are controversial. Some see them as a temporary relief, while others view them as a harmful coping strategy.
An article from Psychology Today says, some use rebounds as “ego management, or in trying to make themselves feel better through the relationship, to increase social status or acceptance, to avoid accountability for their part in a prior relationship ending or in choosing the rebound as a way of maintaining emotional regression or avoidance of growth.”
The article discusses how unhealed attachment insecurities and narcissism can drive individuals into rebound relationships, potentially preventing personal growth. Whether rebounds are healthy depends on the individual’s transparency about their motivations, but honestly, most are seeking revenge on an ex.
Dealing with friend breakups might be one of the hardest things to go through. As someone who has been through it multiple times, sometimes you need to reflect on what you did wrong. Blaming others for your problems won’t fix anything. My advice would be to not gossip about them behind their backs. It is better to reflect upon everyone’s actions in situations like these.
Overall, dealing with romantic or platonic breakups are equally as hard. Over time, focus on personal growth and building new connections that are healthy and positive.
