Tinder dating is like playing with fire

Maleesa Johnson
Maleesa Johnson
Maleesa Johnson

As my generation is practically reliant on social media, it is no surprise outlets exist to further one’s “love life.”

That brings us to Tinder. Tinder is an app that matches people up based on location and Facebook profiles. The app links to profiles on Facebook and displays name, age and photos. The user can choose the photos. Only the best of pictures are chosen. Filters, nice outfits and poses are not optional. For the men, a puppy adds the implication “gentle and likes to cuddle.” For the ladies, definitely try a “#nomakeup” shot in which you have subtle strokes of mascara on.

Once the profile gives off the vibe the user was going for, it is time to “like” and “dislike” matches. Tinder’s slogan “It’s like real life, but better,” is indicative the real issue with Tinder: it is fake.

In addition, if you are getting your self-confidence or lack thereof based on how many people like you on Tinder, it’s time to reevaluate. Ego boosts are nice and occasionally much-needed if you’re having a bad day, but it’s not healthy to get these from virtual communication. Likewise, if you do not get a “like” back from someone you liked, tearing up your self image is a bad idea.

I hate to be a cynic, but I highly doubt you will find your match via Tinder. The app has also taken on a skewed purpose for many users. Rather than looking for dates, there is a significant portion of people seeking less than a relationship and more than a hug, if you get my drift. To put it bluntly: lechery.
Tinder has become the equivalent of picking someone up at a bar, but with less commitment.

The stereotypical one night stand usually requires an individual to go out on a limb and potentially make a fool of themselves in order to engage in initial conversation. Tinder does not even ask that of you. Regardless of the method, the next morning, both are fools.

As always, there are exceptions the generalizations list above. There are people on Tinder looking for dates, relationships and cuddling. After finding an interesting match, many people choose to message or text back and forth. This gives users a chance to decipher what they can from words without tone. There have been success stories from Tinder. Some people go on fun dates and meet interesting people.

The issue lies in how the user defines success. For some success may emerge from a purely physical meeting. Others looking for a relationship may find the person of their dreams. You never know. What you do need to know is Tinder requires zero risk or courage until an actual face-to-face encounter with the matched up user.

Depending upon who you are, this can be a good or bad aspect of Tinder. No risk sounds easy and a lot less scary than pursuing someone in person. However, if you are not willing put your pride at stake to go after someone, are they really worth it?

Tinder has its pros and cons. Ultimately, if you know what you want and you make your intentions clear to the other user, it’s not much of a concern. Just make sure you know what you are getting into before actually meeting up with someone.

Maleesa Johnson is a sophomore journalism major from Round Rock. She is a copy editor for the Lariat.