Viewpoint: It’s possible to both love and disagree with someone

By Linda Wilkins

Let me just say that love and agreeing are two totally different aspects of life. I may disagree with my family on occasion, but I don’t love them any less.

Some people would argue that because I disagree with someone that means I don’t support that person—some would go so far as to say I’ve expressed dislike of the person because of my disagreement.

Apparently if I disagree with you on one point, that means I absolutely hate your guts. Not that your guts have done anything to offend me, but your existence has.

I hear all this controversy about same-sex marriage, taxes, politics and other topics that seem to inflame tempers and some people’s need to argue. I’ll admit, sometimes debate is fun, but it certainly loses its appeal when your own opinion is rejected and not respected.

How is it that in a country that is supposedly free, we cannot express our opinions without having someone lash out at us?

Let’s take same-sex marriage for example.

Most of my opinions are founded on what I believe the Bible says. The Bible makes some obvious points like “don’t murder” and “lying is wrong.” However, some points are more obscure and we, like the new church in ancient times, can interpret it.

The Bible is a source for many people who believe same-sex marriage is wrong and shouldn’t be allowed in our country.

The Bible is also a source that says love is the greatest quality people should possess.

It seems as though those who criticize proponents of traditional marriage claim that these people don’t love everyone because they aren’t accepting of other people’s lifestyles.

Isn’t it possible to love someone and still disagree with them? I believe it is.

The radical mind-set in our society today that says “disagreement equals hate” is breeding a generation of people who will not share their opinions for fear they will be rejected.

That sure doesn’t sound like freedom to me.

In fact, many people chose apathy over taking a side on an issue. They decide to not have an opinion. What kind of world is that?

In medieval times, there were philosophers, theologians and debaters who had opinions. Their opinions helped shape our beliefs today.

What message are we sending to future generations if we refuse to respect the opinions of others and understand that it is OK to disagree?

Disagreements have been around since the beginning of time. I don’t see that trend ending any time soon.

Now, let me qualify what I’ve said so far. I know some people are haters. They enjoy arguing and they enjoy being bitter and hateful.

I don’t know why, but some people are just like that.

However, not everyone is like that and assuming they are is just wrong.

We need to become better at separating our disagreements from the way we treat other people. Somehow, they’ve morphed into this ugly beast of hatred.

The next time you have a disagreement, disagree, express your point, but remember that the other person is a person too and respect them for that.

Linda Wilkins is a sophomore journalism major from Tyrone, Ga. She is the assistant city editor at the Baylor Lariat.